Most parents love their children. In the process of raising children, they hope to be good to their children and want to make their children better. But the problem is that there are some behaviors of parents that seem to be loving children, but they are actually harming children!
The first type is that children do everything right, don't distinguish between right and wrong, and have no rules. In society, we occasionally see this kind of news. Some children hit a pedestrian while riding a bicycle. Instead of teaching children to pay attention, parents blame pedestrians for not seeing the road. Some children rob others of toys. Parents Instead of blaming their children, they complained about not being too stingy, saying that it would be okay to play for a while; some children stole things from the store and took them home. Parents not only criticized the children, but praised their children for their ability. The so-called "upper beam is not right, lower beams are crooked". Although parents do not distinguish between black and white, they do not distinguish between right and wrong. Although the child will feel good in a short time, in fact, it will only distort the child's world view, values, and outlook on life. This world produces the wrong cognition, and finally embarks on the wrong life path.
The second type is easy to satisfy, and does not know how to cherish. In the process of educating their children, many parents always feel that everything is the best for their children. They always respond to their children, and even exceed their own abilities to meet their needs. But in fact, this will only make children feel that Everything is right. If you can't understand your parents, naturally you won't cherish everything you have. In this case, in ordinary people's families, the problem of "not a princess's life, but a princess's disease" will arise. In rich people's families, the typical phenomenon of "sister-in-law" and "second-generation ancestor" will appear.
The third category: arranged instead, which leads to the lack of independence and responsibility of children. In the process of raising their children, some parents can't wait to help the child with everything. They don't want the child to be a little tired and aggrieved. They are small enough for the child to eat every bite, and big enough for the child to take the college entrance examination. Each step is arranged; Some children have conflicts with their classmates at school. Parents not only educate their children to get along with their classmates, but they become more and more prone and often go out to the school to make a big noise and not to make the school upset. In this way, in the process of educating the eagle, the eagle will push the child off the cliff, and the eagle has learned to soar the sky. And parents, should not always be regarded as a greenhouse that shelters their children from the wind and rain, but let the children go through the wind and rain, and the child can finally grow a tree. After all, it is not the parents that can accompany a person to go through life, but himself .
In short, parents must ban these situations in the process of educating their children. They must be guided by the correct three perspectives and let the children rely on their own efforts and abilities to fight for what they want. In this way, although the child will face some immediate difficulties, eventually the child will benefit for life.